What Abundance Really Feels Like (And Why It Surprised Me)

The Quote That Shifted Everything

I came across a quote recently that stopped me in my tracks:

“Not wanting something is as good as having it.”

It hit hard. Not in a flashy or dramatic way, but in a deep, quiet way that made my whole body go, “Yep.”

Because if you really sit with it—if there’s something you no longer crave, no longer chase, no longer feel hungry for—aren’t you already free from it? Isn’t that, in a way, the same peace you think you’ll get from finally having it?

The Pizza Analogy

Here’s what came to mind for me: pizza.

If I had unlimited pizza—like boxes and boxes of it, all day, every day—at some point, I’d stop wanting it. The craving would fade. It would become… boring. Normal. Whatever.

And in that moment, even if I never took another bite, I’d be free from the craving. That freedom—that’s what most of us are really after. Not the pizza. Not the thing. But the end of the chase.

Money, Recognition, Spiritual Praise

It made me realize that when we say we want money, or validation, or status, or a certain kind of success—we don’t really want those things. We want the feeling we think they’ll give us.

And if you can feel that without needing the thing? That’s power.

I’ve thought about this a lot lately, especially in my spiritual work. Would I love for my blog or podcast to reach more people? Of course. But I can already imagine what it would feel like to have it all: the praise, the followers, the endless messages.

And I know myself enough to know… I’d eventually feel full. Maybe even a little bored of it all. Like too much pizza. The validation would stop landing. The excitement would wear off. And that hunger would be gone.

Not because I “achieved” anything—but because I no longer needed it.

That’s the shift. That’s what the quote means to me.

What Still Feels Infinite

There are still things that don’t feel like that. Things that don’t drain me or lose their magic.

• Sitting with my wife in silence. Not even talking. Just being.

• Being in ceremony with plant medicine—psilocybin, ayahuasca.

• Cleaning, when I have the energy. Making a space feel alive again.

• Helping my nephew in the ways I never got helped.

• Sitting outside, listening to rain.

Those things don’t feel like cravings. They feel like truth. Like I could do them forever and never get tired. There’s no hunger to be filled—just presence.

And maybe that’s what I want to build my life around: the stuff that doesn’t fade. The stuff that isn’t about getting or achieving, but simply being.

Meditating on 1,000 Lives

One thing I’ve started doing lately is meditating on extreme repetition—just to see how I’d really feel if I had everything I thought I wanted, over and over again.

I visualized myself traveling the world 1,000 times.
Buying 1,000 sports cars.
Doing 1,000 speaking events.
Closing 1,000 massive business deals.

And in every one of those meditations, I eventually felt the same thing: full.
Not because it was bad. But because the thrill wore off.

And once the thrill is gone… what’s left? That’s what I pay attention to.

Because that’s the stuff that still calls to me.

The things I’d still want to do after doing them 1,000 times—that’s how I know they’re real. That’s how I know they matter. They don’t come from hunger or ambition. They come from love, from presence, from alignment.

That’s the version of abundance I want to build around.

Final Thought

That quote keeps echoing in me:
“Not wanting something is as good as having it.”

It’s a reminder to stop chasing and start noticing.

To ask:
“Do I really want this—or do I just want to stop feeling like I need it?”

Because that kind of freedom?
It’s already here.
And you don’t have to do anything to earn it.